Have you Left a Narcissistic or Toxic Relationship, but have found that you’re struggling to recover and move on?
You may be left Wondering if that’s your life now? If all relationships will be like that. If that’s all there is?
The label of someone being a ‘Narcissist’ has become common. This is in part due to the increased awareness of what narcissistic behaviour is – terms like Gaslighting and Love Bombing have in recent years entered into common knowledge.
The reality is that whether a person has a formal Narcissism diagnosis or not, actions, attitudes and behaviours can be Narcissistic. Patterns of narcissistic abuse can occur in relationships, in workplaces, and in family structures – without the presence of a diagnosed Narcissist.
Often, the person subjected to the abuse, or on the receiving end of emotional manipulation, or who is experiencing the cognitive dissonance is the ONLY person fully aware of it. Which obviously adds to the self doubt and uncertainty, as others will likely deflect, deny and minimise the impact.
Putting yourself and your life back together after such an experience can seem hard, it can be a lonely journey, especially as finding Trust in relationships again can seem challenging – never mind the experience of self doubt and low confidence in yourself and your own decision making which has resulted from the gaslighting and emotional manipulation.
But, there are ways through this. There ARE ways to build yourself up, to recover, to regain control and to create effective new relationships.
It’s about Progress, not Perfection.
It’s about recognizing that recovery from a toxic / Abusive / Narcissistic relationship is a journey and not an event.
But if you are Not making progress on that journey, if you’re stuck in that Negative emotional loop, running through old arguments, asking yourself where it all went wrong… then it’s about recognize and admitting that you need some help and support.
It’s about ACCEPTING that you’re worthy of getting that help. That You matter. That your dreams and aspirations are worth working for. That You are worthy of more.
It’s about RELEASING the pain, the guilt, anger, shame, fear, regret, sadness, frustration… Knowing that these things keep you stuck. That they no longer serve you, or your healing journey.
It’s about building a new IDENTITY and becoming free from Them. Finding new roles, new perspectives, new emotional resources. And finding Yourself in the process – a version of you which you can like and appreciate.
It’s about SETTING compelling goals and healthy boundaries, so that you can create the life you deserve and protect you emotional wellbeing.
And it’s about EMPOWERING yourself with the knowledge, skills, mindset and inner self belief to live free of fear and self sabotage. To grow your CONFIDENCE and self worth. To step into your strength, authority and power.
To ARISE from what was, and become what could be.
Is this your life now? That’s up to you to decide.